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take it easy!父母最重要是平常心,希望越大,失望越大,家長避免壓力過大,會影响小朋友心理,小朋友是感受到的,因子女的壓力通常是來自父母的期望.家長要知interview過程只用很短的時間,末必完全掌握到小朋友的能力,成功與否有時都要靠些運氣,每間學校收生標準不同,有些喜歡思考形文靜乖巧的小朋友、有些喜歡活潑敢言自信的小朋友.我有朋友女兒上年考到St.Paul co-edu,但就考不到一間住屋附近的心儀普通直資小學!

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我曾經都好似你咁，好緊張，攪到我個仔在都唔開心，現在我放松了許多，都是因從GOD而來的平安。很重要是我們有咗接受唔成功的預備，係唔成功而不是失敗，這也是日後小朋友一定會遇到的情況，等他們習慣一下都好，否則將來他們點樣可以面對逆境。

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leavetogod. 如你所說, 你小朋友是上等馬, 無論去到那間小學, 都是上等馬. 你要相信你自己對你小朋友的了解, 相信你小朋友的能力. 給他足夠信心, 為他盡力就已經足夠. 正如很多回覆都說, 自己release, 小朋友就會release.

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大家都放鬆啦.

間間學校要求都唔同, 豈能盡如人意.
無 2nd in, 唔收你個小朋友, 係佢地無tastes 啫~ 我成日都係咁諗~

不過, 我同意, 其實我都好緊張.
尤其係呢個月, 齋等消息, 等有無得2nd in~
都等到我傻傻地.

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Your case is not uncommon. There were many parents writting similar things previously. the more tense you are, the more it will affect your and your kid's performance. Treat it as a learning process and enjoy it. Your son will have a place eventually under the Hk education system.

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Hi leavetogod,

Take it easy la.. don't put pressure on yourself and you will infect your son too.

I am not very nervous on all my daughter's interview. Everytime she goes to interview I will say this ss your special date and you can eat your favourite food and ice cream until you finish the interview. She did ok for each interview. She will let me know whether the interview is fun or not too.

if you believe in God's work, you have been finished and did your best. Just relax and wait so as me.

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leavetogod

Please take good care of yourself since this is quite a long battle. I think what you can do is trying to relax and maybe you can go out for a movie, have a day out in the countryside - anything that is not related to P.1 interview. When you are relax, your son will feel it and when he feels comfortable, he will has a better performance.

My son can read my emotions very well, no matter I am happy or not, he knows it at once. what i am doing now is completely put aside all the P.1 stuff until i receive the 2nd interview letters.

wootaitai


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Suggest jamesbond007 to go to church for more information or discuss religious issues in other post.
We are here to help one another for P1 interview parents.
Let’s encourage one another.

原帖由 jamesbond007 於 09-10-21 00:31 發表
Wootaitai:

I suppose you're a Christian coz you said you pray to God just now and I also suppose a Christian should love his or her enemy. Do you love your enemy or me?

Could you teach me how to pr ...

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leavetogod,

當年我二少考小學時我同你一樣甘緊張, 因為我家大小姐已經入了一間我地的dream school, 而二少的資質比大小姐好(我自認為), 但當第一間學校出2nd In result 時, 榜上無名, 我當時與你一樣, 不斷問自己, 在那裡出錯, 就是因為自己的緊張, 加上姐姐入了一間女校, 而囝囝考政府學校跟本沒有分, 更加令我的壓力大增, 囝囝都感受到壓力, 在這日子真的很辛苦, 不斷叫自己放鬆, 但做唔到, 你的心情我很明白, 當年幸好我身有很多好朋友支持, 經常陪伴我, 最終都度過這些日子, 不要被一間學校把你嚇怕, 每間學校有自己的要求, 可能這不適合你囝囝, 不代表囝囝不標青, 重有很多選擇, 當年我囝囝除被這一間reject外, 其他間間都收他, 如今他已入讀了我地的dream school. 去年到我細女, 我已經董得放鬆, 雖然未能同姐姐同校, 但我地都已經努力左. 不要放棄, 希望在明天, 好消息會陸續來.

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Leavetogod,

I think I know which school you have just gone thru the 2nd interview. (coz you can hear and watch your son, right?)

many friend here have told you how to calm yourselves, all those are correct.

One point I need to point to you, this small step is the start, everyone has a different started line, but the most important is who can run thru the finished line eventually.

I have heard so many kids in famous school end up with poor academic result.  Why? Too nervous both parents and child.

you have many years to walk with your childred, if you are panic, how can you lift up your son? don't question his ability.

remember there is a poster with footprint on the beach.  God with lift you up when you have difficulties, so does you have to lift up your child.  the most important message in this poster is ---- confident and trust

work hard, hope your son can get into a school that he can live with.

If possible, see you in the school function you have just finished the 2nd interview lah

leavetogod

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Really thanks to all the advices. It's so touch and warm to have so many responses even though we don't know each other. It's a good platform to release myself.

I feel better now and will try my best to stay calm as I really love my son.

I learnt a great lesson. My son is a very mature and considerate little boy. How come his mother, me, is so emotional. Therefore, I will always remind myself that the most important things I can give him are love, care and guildance. Let's him walk his way.

I grow up with my son and he is my treasure forever.

Million thanks.

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leavetogod,

我當年因自己的壓力在無形中給了囝囝, 雖然最後他都不負眾望入了心儀學校, 但當我每次見到有人post 出來關於這些問題時, 我便再次想起我囝囝當年的眼神, 我真的很後悔, 一個五歲小孩了為何要承受這無形壓力. 五歲小孩不是要開心的嗎? 我真的很心痛. 我不想這壓力再給我細女, 所以去年我輕鬆面對任何結果, 雖然結果有未盡如意, 但我和囡囡都好開心, 無壓力.

原帖由 leavetogod 於 09-10-22 12:04 發表
Really thanks to all the advices. It's so touch and warm to have so many responses even though we don't know each other. It's a good platform to release myself.

I feel better now and will try my bes ...

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Very very touching!!! Thanks for sharing.

原帖由 SmallTungmama 於 09-10-22 09:16 發表
leavetogod,

當年我二少考小學時我同你一樣甘緊張, 因為我家大小姐已經入了一間我地的dream school, 而二少的資質比大小姐好(我自認為), 但當第一間學校出2nd In result 時, 榜上無名, 我當時與你一樣, 不斷問自己, ...

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阿仔第一次面試後我同佢做賽後檢討,突然之間他眼睛紅紅,跟住眼淚就不斷流出嚟!我嘗試問佢点解唔開心,但係阿仔最終都話唔知道原因!嗰一刻我真係好心痛,係唔係我無形之中比咗壓力佢?就算我地大人去見工都會緊張有壓力,何況係一個5歲嘅小朋友?

我依家面試前唯一會做嘅,就係同阿仔講'老師問嘅問題你未必全部都識,但係只要你係盡咗力,爸爸媽媽都會好開心!有一樣嘢你一定要記住,就係爸爸媽媽永遠都o甘愛你!'

無論結果如何,我都會欣然接受!因為對我嚟講,最重要嘅係阿仔可以有一個快樂嘅童年!下年就到阿女報小一了,有咗今次經驗,希望下年同阿女可以從容面對!

mattsmum