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原帖由 annie40 於 10-12-20 11:47 發表 
爱是 盲目的, 我门在育儿方面仲有不一样有盲点, 我来这里, 为的是看自身之不足之處, 有些毛病, 我也常犯`大家发表意见, 也可舒緩情绪, 这边不是父母競技场, 不用太计较, 錯话对话说完罢了.
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Dear annie40
好，如你所願。
三星期前，接君悅公關來電，問會否今年亦一如過往，和家人一起到酒店吃聖誕餐。如此重大財務決定，當然要問准家裏的”she-who-must-be-obeyed”(needless to say, Rumpole of the Bailey is another legal drama I love) 。本以為是例行公事，誰料妻子說：「兩個女都唔係度，費事搞啦。你好多錢咩？」正想駁咀說咁你又前晚帶我去食意大利餐， but I thought better of it, 否則激嬲佢，陣間唔同我去大坑食車仔麵咪衰。
We love our daughters who are extremely close to us. But we have laid down a rule long ago that, they can only come back to Hong Kong once a year. For Christmas, spring break, Easter, whatever, we don’t care where they go as long as they don’t come back to Hong Kong. My wife understands perfectly once they start working, like their father, all the exotic places in the world sometimes boil down to just hotel and airport names. When we were in the states on holiday this summer, the excitement from discussing where they would spend the Christmas and spring break helped to suppress the sorrow of the impending separation between us and our younger daughter.
Our younger daughter is a sensitive girl and she cried like I don’t know after we left. It lasted for over a week. My wife was even thinking of going over to bring her back. But kids are actually stronger than we would like to think for them. After a month and a half, she was thoroughly enjoying her new university life. Before the term break, she even called to ask me for summer next year if she could stay behind for a couple of weeks as she was considering taking a field trip with the Anthropology department to central America exploring the Maya civilization or south America exploring the Inca civilization. 我想我們的孩子很多時候沒有我們想像般脆弱。很多時候，他們需要的不是我們的帶領，他們只需要我們的支持及在旁推波助瀾而矣。
My elder daughter is now in Stockholm for a snowy white Christmas with the family of one of her US high school mates and my younger one is now in Florida for a piping hot Christmas with the family of one of the mates she knew from a summer camp a couple of years ago.
另一心得以前講過，但我覺得值得再強調。
As I said, we are hopelessly spoiling towards our daughters. In my memory, we have never turned down a single request from our daughters for material things. You would say it wouldn’t be difficult with a shopaholic wife like mine. For example, my wife has kept on asking my younger daughter to change her iPhone 3GS to iPhone 4, but my daughter just said she would wait until iPhone 5 is out as her phone is still working perfectly. My sister-in-law recently commented we should count ourselves lucky as our daughters are among the most humble ones she has seen in kids with similar family background. My wife answered that it was not luck at all.
We have always insisted our daughters do community work no matter what and no matter where. They have been doing this since P2 or 3. They not only know there are less privileged kids who have never been to even the Hong Kong Disney; they live and work with these children all the time. From the community work of all these years, they have developed a genuine empathy for the less lucky ones in our community, and it is not just vague book knowledge to them. At the same time, their experiences in all these have prevented them from going over the top in material wants.
Besides, community work is fun as well. Recently, my younger daughter told me all the interesting incidents she had from a fund-raising event in San Francisco. Like in 歡樂滿東華，she was one of the workers who answered the calls from the donors. I teased her saying that the event was successfully completed ahead of schedule possibly because she had added one or two zeros by mistakes in taking the donors’ calls. My elder daughter, as usual, was more adventurous. She participated in a fund-raising event which the participants had to go as far as possible within 36 hours but without spending a single penny for the trip. She and her mate made it to Brussels and came back to the UK via Amsterdam. Of course she did not win. The winning team managed to make it to Australia. I just asked her to learn the trick and try to come back to Hong Kong this way next summer.
However, my wife still prefers to be able to go back in time and had two toddlers in our arms as she dreads the day her angels have to work like their father in the old days once they graduate and join the real world. Here comes her favorite saying: A girl only needs to marry well, like her, or unlike her.
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