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Blessings

睇完大家的分享,舒服好多.我地要互相支持同鼓勵!千萬不要怪責小朋友,人生仲有好多面試,每次都係學習的機會.

ysnmama

如何可以改變由不懷疑自己的孩子到開始懷疑的想法?

CHP

你的孩子只是和大部份孩子一樣唔識飛. 做一個普通市民, 舒服過做特首.

6月之後大執位, 好似執c雞咁.  "可能"學校收一封信取消註冊, 跟住再開一封求位信, 就順手比左個offer.  "可能"我地好緊張如何interview比分, 如何分高低, 原來老師只是随意比左個分.

原帖由 ysnmama 於 10-11-5 11:43 發表
如何可以改變由不懷疑自己的孩子到開始懷疑的想法?

Charlotte_mom

懷疑? 點解要懷疑自己小朋友?
COME ON! 佢地只係5歲, 如果係做得到而唔去努力做, 我會好"炆", 但每人都有自己潛能, 佢今日係做唔到, 但有努力, 我地做父母唔係應該由心裡覺得安慰嗎?
"人比人, 比死人", 呢句野係岩架, 我仔舊年IN小一, 睇英文書, 識認到一版4,5句果D字, 我覺得佢有努力學習值得讚! 點知INTERVIEW時見到前面個細路本書, 嘩! 成版密麻麻都係英文字, 我仔係無可能做到, 唔通我懷疑佢? 怪佢? 鬧佢? 我會好羨慕人地個仔英文咁叻, 但我唔會覺得自己個小朋友特別差LOR, 睇野要睇好多瓣架嘛
再講, INTERVIEW每日得果幾分鐘, 幾十分鐘, 你又點知入面發生過咩事? 唔係人人都天生外向, 有D小朋友怕羞, OR好不安唔想答問題, 呢D係佢錯嗎? 佢順利合作完成一個INTERVIEW已經好叻仔喇

又講多一次, 其實去到最後, 每人都只不過要"一"個學位, 可能而家最叻果班小朋友HOLD住好多OFFER, 到最後都係要放返出黎, 呢個"音樂椅"遊戲, 仲有排玩, 唔好咁快灰心, 加油努力! (唔好俾自己+小朋友太多壓力喇)

原帖由 ysnmama 於 10-11-5 11:43 AM 發表
如何可以改變由不懷疑自己的孩子到開始懷疑的想法?

motherotk

If you have doubts on your "understanding" of your kid's developmental stage, then it;s a good timing to be realistic and really take care of his/her stage of development instead of giving yourself a false hope to compare your kid to other kids...

I mean, this is good that you really do care for the real kid before you, not a "compared" one or the one that full of your expectations..

Loving your kid is to understand him/her and accept him/her with who he/she is...

原帖由 ysnmama 於 10-11-5 11:43 發表
如何可以改變由不懷疑自己的孩子到開始懷疑的想法?

Charlotte_mom

原帖由 motherotk 於 10-11-5 12:26 PM 發表
If you have doubts on your "understanding" of your kid's developmental stage, then it;s a good timing to be realistic and really take care of his/her stage of development instead of giving yourself a  ...

CHP

真係唔係黑心...我想講呢個小朋友可能都有心儀學校由於其他原因reject佢(唔係因為英文太叻)....佢媽媽可能仲傷心.  要想咩原因比人reject, 想到傻都諗唔到啦!

總之, 小朋友平平凡凡都夠了.  健康+開心最緊要呀!

原帖由 Charlotte_mom 於 10-11-5 12:21 發表
點知INTERVIEW時見到前面個細路本書, 嘩! 成版密麻麻都係英文字,

thomasha

換個角度看，這個小一入學申請和面試過程，讓我們更了解孩子的強項和弱項，學校有沒有取錄並不代表孩子的好壞，只是學校有自己既定的取錄方針，而你的孩子跟他們的方針不一樣而已。作為父母，只要讓孩子繼續發揮強項，改善弱項，加上以愛心栽培，難保他朝孩子可以出人頭地，鶴立雞群。

學校沒有取錄，可以失望，但千萬別沮喪和失去信心。社會需要更多遇上挫折後可以自己站起來，昂首闊步重新上路的家長和新一代，而不是一有失敗就終日自怨自艾的人。

原帖由 ysnmama 於 10-11-5 11:43 發表
如何可以改變由不懷疑自己的孩子到開始懷疑的想法?

2LittleMonkey

說得好!!!

原帖由 thomasha 於 10-11-5 13:11 發表
換個角度看，這個小一入學申請和面試過程，讓我們更了解孩子的強項和弱項，學校有沒有取錄並不代表孩子的好壞，只是學校有自己既定的取錄方針，而你的孩子跟他們的方針不一樣而已。作為父母，只要讓孩子繼續發揮強項，改善弱項，加上 ...

olima

大家振作呀﹗

我已經阿Q地諗，2002-04比較少細路出生，但之後經濟好左，2005年開始多番BB出生，直資私校又多左人認識，爭住讀，對我地D無兄姐，又不是十分SMART的小孩而言實在唔著數...

另一個阿Q的想法是，去大抽獎都好，甚至叩門都好，希望可以搵間好的津校，為細嗰個鋪路﹗

原帖由 2LittleMonkey 於 10-11-5 14:10 發表
說得好!!!

thomasha

How much time will you allow yourself to feel bad and depressed?  :)

Life goes on, whatever you mood is.

原帖由 smile2003 於 10-11-5 16:59 發表
me, very down and upset.  

although the results are expected but still cannot overcome it by feeling bad and depress.

milkonline2

我一個offer都無，前排我都好depressed,但當我的寶貝仍然是那個開心、愛學習的他，什麼都滿足了，無直資、私校收都未必係壞事，努力向前、愛他們多些吧！有什麼比父母的愛更重要呢？？？

原帖由 smile2003 於 10-11-5 04:59 PM 發表
me, very down and upset.  

although the results are expected but still cannot overcome it by feeling bad and depress.

wasabi-cat

thx for all of your sharings, it's really the chicken soup for my soul~~

i saw a lot of dads and moms with positive thinking here, which is a big motivation for me to overcome the difficult period right now... it's really a gift from GOD for me to share and learn from all of you.

btw, i NEVER doubted the ability of my children. even they are not good at something (and actually they can't good at everything), i trust that they should have potentials in a particular aspect. it's us - the parents - having the responsibility and committment to discover their potentials and help them develop their potentials in full. if we just focus on the weaknesses of our children, it will become a lose-lose situation for both parents and the children.

although i have not much hope on the lucky draw (as the net of my residential area is not that good), i've already prepared to let my daughter getting into P1 first, and then just repeat the painstaking process again next year.

what i'm disappointed at is not only the rejection letters i've received, but also the unhealthy norms of pressing our children to participate in many competitions and extra curricular activities.  i think most of the parents are forced to do so in order to get the admission tickets of this game.

thomasha

Like Like Like!

Actually my primary purpose of engaging my son in different activities is to let him expose to them and explore his interests, as well as to learn some "basic" skills.  If I were fully admission-oriented, I would have forced him to take part in many more competitions or take more public exams (English, maths or piano).  I want a balance between learning and only catering for P1 application needs, and my son enjoys all the learning processes, even all but one interviews.

原帖由 wasabi-cat 於 10-11-5 18:20 發表
what i'm disappointed at is...the unhealthy norms of pressing our children to participate in many competitions and extra curricular activities.  i think most of the parents are forced to do so in order to get the admission tickets of this game.

[ 本帖最後由 thomasha 於 10-11-5 19:08 編輯 ]

motherotk

It's ok to be depressed and in bad mood, we are human beings....we are vlunerable and we are expecting good things to happen..

This is only part of the life, of course and never be all ....life still is full of opportunities if you want to grasp, unless you don't want to.....and allow this "unhealthy culture" to get control of you...

原帖由 smile2003 於 10-11-5 16:59 發表
me, very down and upset.  

although the results are expected but still cannot overcome it by feeling bad and depress.

fotk

Take good care..

原帖由 smile2003 於 10-11-5 19:51 發表
I am working mother.  It is really stressful when facing those 'failure' results and I really feel very upset indeed.   When I read this messages, my eyes cannot control go red.

forty+

I also had the same personal feelings about that previously not until I found that my feelings is not absolutely correct.

What is "forced"? It would be so if the kid really doesn't like to do something but must do so only because of the parents' expectation and instruction.  Every kid is unique and has their own character and interests.  If your kid is an outgoing, energetic and eagar learning one, then if you select those activities and learnings that suit him/her, it would be "give (the opportunity to learn)" rather than "forced".

Some kids are very energetic that enjoy taking different classes including the academic one or just for fun ones.  Why not "give" if they and the parents both have the time and energy to do so?


<<what i'm disappointed at is not only the rejection letters i've received, but also the unhealthy norms of pressing our children to participate in many competitions and extra curricular activities.  i think most of the parents are forced to do so in order to get the admission tickets of this game.>>

原帖由 wasabi-cat 於 10-11-5 18:20 發表
thx for all of your sharings, it's really the chicken soup for my soul~~

i saw a lot of dads and moms with positive thinking here, which is a big motivation for me to overcome the difficult period ri ...

fotk

agree.. as some kids enjoy learning...then as parents can provide opportunities for them ..

原帖由 forty+ 於 10-11-5 20:21 發表
I also had the same personal feelings about that previously not until I found that my feelings is not absolutely correct.

What is "forced"? It would be so if the kid really doesn't like to do somethi ...