A luck to escape from a direct subsidy school

Charlotte_mom

其實要搵答案好易的, 善用bk function, 按粒制就有clues了

chanpa,
好明白你既煩惱, 我都有個朋友e甥仔有阿氏保加, 今年升中派位, 佢父母擔心得不得了, 怕佢去左間新學校情緒又受困擾......好彩個媽咪"身經百戰", 最後主動去見新中學校長, 傾完放心多了
祝你小朋友有個愉快既新校園生活

原文章由 chanpa 於 08-7-20 09:15 PM 發表
My son does not study at HKUAPS.
多謝大家支持，大家的眼睛是雪亮的。

BB頭maimimi

衷心希望你囝囝可以有一個開心的學校生活,其實以特別需要的小朋友父母來說,要找一間適會學校讀書真係好困難,如果無你將囝囝的事post出黎,我諗好多小朋友都要經歷囝囝的惡夢。

HeiKiBaBa

Hi Chanpa

Please PM me the school making you suffered a lot!

Many Thanks!

breefan

PLEASE note that mine is a question NOT a guess!!!!!!!!!!

I think it is not fair either now, because it seems that ALL DSS schools are labelled as "bad" school.

原文章由 Charlotte_mom 於 08-7-20 19:06 發表
PLEASE唔好亂估, 港同成績表根本無conduct呢一樣野

huayan

What's the meaning of knowing his previous school name ? chanpa stated that they sent out so many letters but only one school accepts their application. That means the popular situation is most of the schools will not accept such kind of pupil.

I think knowing his current school name is much important.

TomDog

(嘆息) 是的, 除了少數由傳統轉做直資的名校,  直資新校的認受性是很低的。

囡囡考小一, narrow down左一兩間直資。 我有親友問她一個在職小學老師朋友, 邊一間好, 得到的意見竟然是: "個小朋友正唔正常? 讀書跟唔跟到上?  正常就讀傳統學校啦, 個d學校係專俾d有問題的去讀, 好似過度活躍症, 同人相處有問題呀咁..." 也有家長朋友同老公說: "乜你咁縱個女呀, 俾佢讀間咁easy的學校?"

別人說什麼, 不會輕易動搖自己多次分析後作的決定, 不過, 聽完也多少有d唔開心。

我說的完全是題外話, 不好意思。

原文章由 breefan 於 08-7-21 20:56 發表
PLEASE note that mine is a question NOT a guess!!!!!!!!!!

I think it is not fair either now, because it seems that ALL DSS schools are labelled as "bad" school.

[ 本文章最後由 TomDog 於 08-7-22 00:50 編輯 ]

rookiemom

I feel very angry when I read your post, that 'school' is definitely not a good school, they didn't even try to help but hurt student and their parents' feeling, shame on them!!

Wish your son settle well in his new school!

原文章由 chanpa 於 08-7-20 21:15 發表
My son does not study at HKUAPS.

多謝大家支持，大家的眼睛是雪亮的。

TINGMUM

CHANPA,

你仔仔很好彩, 有肯聽他說話分享因由的父母. 如學校沒有心或能力去幫助你仔仔個案, 再留下去只會害了仔仔, 又苦了該校. 轉新校是一個明智的決定. 希望在與新校良好的溝通下, 你仔仔在校有多些支援關心, 只要家校合作, 愛心, 關心, 專業人士支援加耐性, 一步步地, 相信你仔仔的問題會一天天地見到改善!  , 為你地打氣,請加油!

clmom

chanpa

我知道由於DSS開辦時,校長一定推出許多抱負及計劃來吸引家長,但實行時出現了許多問題,加上許多老師都沒有經驗去處理,學校更沒有支援,令許多家長不單投訴無門,真是有苦自己知,苦了家長之餘更四處找學校,身心疲勞,並擔心小朋友為轉校再適應新環境煩惱.
身為現今家長實不輕易, ,不過終有一天會守得雲開見月明的.

我相信你的小朋友一定有美好的明天!

chanpa

Hi Clmom

全中。當日，參加了簡報會，被吸引了。
結果下錯注，輸得很慘，害了兒子。

按語：假、大、空，回頭是岸。

chanpa

Hi every mums

I remembered that the Headmistress considered that A grade was excellent, B grade was good, C grade was satisfactory and D grade meant needed improvement in the appeal meeting.

The Headmistress considered that my son's conduct was not satisfactory but he needed improvement.  Therefore, she gave him grade D+ in conduct.

I thought she was crazy and 無料 to handle my son.  A, A-, B+, B, B-, C+, C,and C- also needed improvement.  She cannot make a positive way to look at my son but is very defensive to find faults on my son.

Furthermore, my son got prizes on Mandarin and Mathematics in the name of the school.  The school posted these on its website which seemed that the school trained him.  In fact, I employed a private Mandarin teacher for my son and attended twenty hours training course outside for Mathematics.  Why did not the school add conduct marks for my son (為校爭光 )?

I shall take action to the school and the running organisation to 還 亞仔公道.

Thank you for all support and concern in this issue.

C.F.

Dear Chanpa,


           I knew how you feel, I think your son was in the same class with my kid .  
            At the beginning in grade 2 when the school was newly started.  I'd heard about your son's behaviour.  At that time I was one of the parent who did worried about my kid might got hurt. I apologize for my worried.
            But later , I went to participate in the  class when that year the former pincipal  let parents to watch how our children did in the class.(But this year  parents can only watched the video instead.)
          Anyway, I sat in the back ,and I was impressed by your son. Because he is the smartest boy in the class. Also, he was the one make the whole class so active to answer teacher's question.  I was amazed that his knowledge is beyond that grade.  He is the normal kid to what I know of.  To what I'd heard and what I'd saw . I'd came out a conclusion to myself that the boy lost temper might just because somone or something cause him lost temper.  Since then, I told my kid be nice and friendly to him and I knew I don't need to worry about my kid might get hurt anymore. Because he is harmless. He is nice.

           This year ,I went to school and met your son a few times.  And I'd talk to him . He was so nice and have conversation with me. He is the lovely kid to what I know of.
And I'm so glad, because I haven't heard any lost temper case out from him. I knew he is improving . And I feel sorry for my kid lost such a good classmate.
          I found out the common mistake we make which is chose this school to our kids.  
               I should change school for my kid too. So, it is wise for you to find another school for your son.  you are a good parent.
               I 'm always worrying my kid is not a outstanding student and didn't get any prize for the school .  He is only a normal student doesn't like competition. Sooner or later, they might tell my kid to find another school.

               Other  parents should find out this school and think about it before made a decision for their kids.  

                On the other hand, I also want to know the new school your son going to.  I need to keep in mind , might need that in the future.  Never know what might happen .

                Now, I'm  looking forward someone will come around and do some change and keep the promises which were made when the school was newly started.

                  Best wishes for your family !!

rookiemom

I feel very lucky that my son did not apply to this school

chanpa

原文章由 C.F. 於 08-8-5 03:16 發表
Dear Chanpa,


           I knew how you feel, I think your son was in the same class with my kid .  
            At the beginning in grade 2 when the school was newly started.  I'd heard about your s ...

Dear CF

          Don't worry about your kid.  I think that those chosen by the previous chief principal are good students who had special talents/potentials.

          I experienced that 活動在學校, 教學在家中。  But youhave no guideline at home.  So you have to teach your kid at home i.e. to train him to be traditional one.  

          All the school promise is empty. (自求多福)  Don't you see that there is a psychologist, a social worker, two teachers in a class but so called mentor only in this year? (有的像賣仔) With some unknown/hidden political reasons, the psychologist, who had serious conflict with the primary headmistress in 2007, was transferred to the secondary school and he never took a notice on the primary school students in this year.  Previously, the psychologist held good parent lectures but now the parent lectures were contracted out.  This psychologist was also resigned this year and the school employed a new psychologist.

           I suggest that your kid should do extra exercises for future use/preparation.  I teach my son with the guidelines of the book, 孩子的成功來自媽媽 1%的改變, 張炳惠博士著。  It teaches how to make the son study on a table and to increase the study time.  In other words, it teaches the son to increase his attention span.  

           In the classroom, the study atmosphere is not good.  So you should train your son by yourself.  The other class XB is much worse than XA.  XB is more confused(亂).  You can see in the video for 觀課.  In addition, many teachers left the school this year, which  brought the continuity problem.

           I heard from a parent that a P.6 student coming from a traditional primary school studied in F.1 in this school.  This student became more relax in F.1 and now he was promoted to F.2.  How can this student makes a competition with outside students when sitting for public examination?  Secondly, I heard another direct subsidy school requests many not up-to-standard students to repeat.  Thirdly, I heard that a parent was disappointed to the book list of the secondary school as the books are easy.   

          Work hard for your kid. (1%聰明, 99%勤力, 沒有不勞而獲)  The school said that the school has taught the students all at school and the parents just played with the students at home.  Don't worry about the revision.  (邊有禁 數)  
          We support all together.  If you have any problem/question, please PM me and I shall call you back.

Pufferfish

I'm glad that my son did not enter that "Kowloon university" affiliated primary school !!!

Add oil chanpa!

837

Dear chanpa,

Congratulations to both you and your son.

As I am applying for P1 for my son, could you please tell me the names of your son's old and new schools?

Thanks very much for your help.

GGmonster

I have a mixed feeling after viewing this thread.  My son studies in it too.  So far, I don't have major issue with it, and my husband and I do play with my son mostly at home and haven't spent much time on doing homework or revision.  I don't know if my son will become less competitve than other students in traditional schools because of that...

Last year, there were two classmates of my son that have behavorial problems.  One other classmate got hurt badly during one incident and was on wheelchair for a month.  As a parent, I have to admit that I did worried once that my son might be the next to get hurt - his pants got a hole cut by one of the boys but he didn't get hurt.  I guess it's also hard for the teacher to handle the very active students.  My son said the class discipline is very poor.  I hope there will be improvement this year.

chanpa

Dear all kind baby-kingdom ma,

My son starts the new P.4 in a traditional school.  He has one Chinese dictation and one English dictation in each learning cycle.  Each dictation is equal to the total amount of the previous DSS at least three months.  My son now got good marks in dictations and I am busy at closely monitoring his study.  In September, he got a Chinese assessment and a Mathematics assessment.  Luckily, he passed them.  I am confident that he will be better later.  He is now working hard.  In the past one month, I do not receive any complaint from the school whose classmates and teachers are good.  The students there pay much effort on study but not paying trick on other students.  My son sounds that he loves this school very much and does not lose his temper so far.  

What happened after the first case conference after Chinese New Year 08.  The DSS student guidance teacher (SGT) referred my son to the Educational Psychologist of Education Bureau but not his so called educational psychologist in DSS.  But it was too late.  The Educational Psychologist of Educational Bureau interviewed with me, my wife and SGT to collect the basic information.  Then, a second case conference with English teacher, Mathematics teacher, SGT, Educational Psychologist, Educational Psychologist student, two senior staff of Educational Bureau, my wife and I was held.  In fact, after the first meeting with Educational Psychologist, I request the assistance of Educational Bureau for the change of school.  After finishing the final examination in July, a third case conference was held before summer holiday.  This was just a round up meeting with the classteacher, Mathematics teacher, SGT, Educational Psychologist, my wife and I.  Where is the headmistress and the female discipline master?  Are they scared?  Do they avoid seeing us for the bad conduct?  Before that, I did not pay the school deposit for the next school year.  I have strong desire to leave this evil DSS no matter where my son goes to study.

After March, this is only SGT to handle the case.  I receive no concern from the chief Principal, headmistress and female discipline master.  When my wife and I met them in the school, the headmistress and this female discipline master just walked away. (如同陌路人)  We were just transparent.  I write them for an appeal.  Yet, the school authority is very scared and does not write back to me with a good reason.   

In this year, this DSS receives no new student in P.4.  Totally, three students of previous 3A, including a student whose parent was a member of Parent Teacher Association, left the school and one repeated.  Of course, this parent knows more school information than me.  It is understandable why this parent chooses to leave this school.  The last student left DSS with his younger sibling.

I read from a newspaper last week and in the website.  A parent wrote to the newspaper to praise this DSS and many good comments were posted in the internet.  But this is only P.1 parent but not P.2, P.3, P.4 and P.5.  Where are these parents?  Do P.1 parents know the outside primary standard?  If the parents lastly sent their kids to study abroad, OK you stay at DSS.  Otherwise, you should think carefully.  (不做白老鼠) Once you start your child in this DSS, it is very difficulty to get out of this DSS.  你想逃，你要有好身手。

This is the end of a sad story of a boy with special learning difficulties.  

Thank you for those reading my messages and those support my son and I.

eemay

Hi! Chanpa,

I'm glad to know your son is doing well in the new school.
Keep it up!!
We all support you!!

原帖由 chanpa 於 08-10-5 01:34 發表
Dear all kind baby-kingdom ma,
My son starts the new P.4 in a traditional school.  He has one Chinese dictation and one English dictation in each learning cycle.  Each dictation is equal to the total  ...

mattsmum

this book may be useful for you.

Boys Adrift浮萍男孩：發現男生缺乏動機的因素，再造獨立負責的男兒本色

男孩的成長需要適當的教育與引導
──洪蘭

以前我做學生時，班上沒有一個同學是過動或注意力缺失，現在幾乎每一班都至少有一個，有的班還高到四、五個。頑皮的孩子自古至今都有，男生沒有調過皮、挨過打，好像就不可能長大，但是皮到要帶去給醫生看、要吃藥，好像是沒有。所以這個注意力缺失過動症（Attention－Deficit and Hyperactive Disorder, ADHD）就變成了二十一世紀非常引人注目的疾病。本書作者是個家醫科醫生，又在賓州大學念到心理學的博士學位，手邊有臨床門診的資料，又有作研究的訓練，加上「好奇」是人的本性，他就開始去研究為什麼本世紀有麼多過動／注意力缺失的孩子，而且為什麼男生居多。

疾病是不分性別一律肆虐的，如果分性別，那麼可能有基因上的原因，使某個性別容易受疾病的侵害；也可能有社會的因素，對某個性別特別不利，所以值得研究。他發現真正應該吃藥的過動兒不多，許多是誤診，吃了不該吃的藥，因為父母的期待和老師、醫生的方便（沒有父母能接受我的孩子功課不好是他比較笨的關係，如果是疾病，那麼父母顏面沒有失，畢竟人要生病是沒有辦法的事；服了藥，孩子安靜下來，可以坐在課堂上聽講了，對老師是個很大的精神壓力解脫；很多醫生是只要病人不抱怨，老師、父母都要求用藥時，開了藥皆大歡喜，所以治標的各種藥物就越開越多了）。但是基本上，這是鋸箭療傷的方式，並不能解決問題，本書的作者在門診繁忙之餘，費心找出該現象的社會原因，解除孩子的痛苦，是很令人敬佩的。

過動／注意力缺失是男孩、女孩都有的毛病，為何本書只偏重男生的現象和發生原因呢？這是因為男生情況比較嚴重，先從嚴重的救起。在大腦的發展上男生成熟得比女生慢。美國國家衛生研究院（NIH）曾經做過一個大型的大腦發展造影研究，掃描了一千七百多個從幼稚園到青春期孩子的大腦，結果發現男生與女生在大腦不同區域成熟的順序和時間不同。一般來說，女生早熟，甚至可以早到兩年的差距，所以有些六年級的女生看起來像高中生，有些國二的男生看起來像五年級小學生。最近比較人類學的基因研究發現男生與公黑猩猩有百分之九九•四的基因相同，比與人類女性的共同基因還多一些。所以男生在看、聽、嗅覺方面與公黑猩猩的相似性大於人類的女性。這一點對了解性別差異很重要，男女在處理事情上的不同是來自大腦結構與神經迴路活化上所造成的功能上的不同。

在台灣談性別差異是件危險的事，我曾因為談到男女在同一件事的處理上大腦有不同之處，而被猛烈攻擊，甚至黑函說我政治不正確。但是在實驗上的確有看到差異，所以必須要講。其實每個人有每個人擅長的地方，真正的男女平等應該是每個人去做每個人擅長的事，不論它是刻板的男生的事或刻板的女生的事。法律要保障的是機會的平等和薪水的平等。作者也看到了男女大腦上的不同，所以他認為男生需要適合男生天性的課程表，從他們的長處切入，去開啟教導他們的心智。他說男生需要常常去戶外活動，在大自然中觀察，從實際動手操作中學習（其實女性也是需要）。如果孩子花很多時間在電腦螢幕前面而不在戶外，會有所謂的「文化自閉症」（Cultural Autism），最後形成被孤立、牽制、阻遏的那種「隧道感官」感覺（Tunneled Senses），他們抓不到概念或問題的重心。因此，從本書中，你可以強烈感覺到作者贊成男女分校或分班，男生需要競爭才會有動機。作者舉了很多例子來支持他的看法。我來自女校，回想自己的成長過程，我承認他講的有道理。

由於全球競爭激烈，每個父母都希望孩子及早學習，忘記了學習有「成熟」這個條件。現在幼稚園做的是小學一年級的工作，美國從幼稚園開始教認字、寫字（台灣也是），假如男生成熟的慢，還不能讀和寫，這時，他會討厭上學，因為上學是挫折，是去做一件他能力還做不到的事。其實北歐很多學校是七歲才啟蒙上學，他們的國力發展也沒有比我們五歲就學寫字的差。太早要求孩子去做他還沒有準備好、還未成熟到可以做的事，對孩子的身心都不好。

讀者可以想像馬路上有個裂縫，大人一腳就跨過去了，孩子則必須蹲下來爬過去，爬時還得戰戰兢兢，生怕掉下去。但是等孩子長大一點，腳步變寬時，他也一步就跨過去了。小時候看希臘神話金羊毛（Golden Fleece）的電影，巨人一腳就跨過了博斯普魯斯海峽；或是《格列佛遊記》裡的格列佛一把就把船抓起來，多麼輕而易舉。看到台灣的父母，孩子才三歲兩個月就送去學功文數學，真讓我心痛。這本書有很多篇幅是為了這樣的父母寫的，作者從大腦的觀點來勸告父母不要揠苗助長，每個人大腦的成熟時間不一樣，大腦同一區塊男女成熟的時間也不一樣，不必心急，晚一年上學沒有所謂的面子問題，幼稚園本來就是個學習與別人相處的遊戲地方，沒有「被當掉」的面子問題。

至於為什麼白人小孩被診斷為ＡＤＨＤ的比例高，這是社會偏見的關係。一個白人小孩拿到Ｃ，而老師認為他應該拿Ａ，老師就會懷疑他是不是注意力有缺失，上課沒有好好聽，回家沒有好好做功課；但是假如一個黑人或墨西哥孩子拿到Ｃ，老師可能認為他是能力所限，無法拿到更好的成績，就不會建議父母帶孩子去找醫生開藥。作者坦承美國有很多人，包括黑人老師在內，仍是對白人孩子有較高的期待，他們會認為這個白人小孩沒有發揮出他的潛能，應該尋求改進方法。想不到這反而使不需要服藥的白人孩子服了藥，變成白人ＡＤＨＤ的機率比黑人高出了許多。這也許是種族歧視者前所未料的吧！

那麼，如果孩子不是過動／注意力缺失，為什麼吃了藥就安靜下來，學習就進步了呢？麻省理工學院蓋伯瑞利教授的實驗回答了這個問題。蓋伯瑞利真是神通廣大，能得到父母的同意，給正常的孩子吃注意力缺失過動症的藥；他也得到病童父母同意，暫時給注意力缺失過動症的孩子停藥。他在這段期間測試兒童，看他們在有藥、無藥的情況下學習的情形。結果發現藥物會增進正常兒童的學習，增進的強度與有注意力缺失過動症的兒童的程度一模一樣。這些藥物都是促使大腦中血清張素的濃度增加，而血清張素跟記憶、注意力、動機都有直接的關係，難怪過動／注意力缺失的誤診率這麼高。很多人都認為吃了藥有效，就一定是這個病，其實不見得。路上很多人打傘時，陰溝的水會漲高，但是那是因為下雨的關係，雨水才是真正的原因，打傘只是個表象。

現在許多家長很短視，只要孩子功課好，什麼都可以犧牲。既然吃了藥記憶力會好，為何不給他吃？他們會要求醫生開藥。最近動物的研究發現這些藥物會影響大腦，尤其是伏隔核，會使動物失去動機：肚子餓，食物放在面前懶得吃，連敵人來都懶得逃命。在人類身上也看到同樣情形，最近腦造影研究發現，七到十四歲的男生如果玩太多電玩會影響伏隔核和背側前額葉皮質（DLPFC）的平衡，伏隔核是把動機和驅力送到DLPFC去，DLPFC再給這個驅力回饋報酬的目標和情境，這兩個區域密切合作，這個人就有動機，朝真實世界的目標前進。但是如果電玩遊戲將血液引入伏隔核，使DLPFC的血流量減少，這時電玩遊戲本身就給了孩子達到目的的回饋報酬，而這回饋報酬並沒有連接到真實的世界，所以他們對真實世界的成就不再感興趣。電玩刺激大腦的伏隔核區就跟吸食古柯鹼所影響的地方一樣，所以電玩會上癮。

其實男生和女生真的有不同，從孩子的行為上就可以看出。我和我妹妹都曾到動物收養中心去領養過流浪貓，我妹妹的兩個女兒會替貓洗澡，用洗衣籃替牠佈置一個溫暖的窩；我的兒子就把貓塞到他的Ｔ恤裡假裝他在懷孕，結果貓逃出來時，在他胸前狠狠留下五道血爪印。男生闖了禍不敢說，等我替他洗澡時才發現，他怕我罵，還一直說不痛、不痛。

男孩並不會因長大就自動變成男人，他們需要被教導、被引導，需要藉由各種挑戰證明給別人看，他的身體、心智都已成熟，可以脫離父母保護，獨當一面，他才算成年。年齡跟成熟之間不是等號關係，古人十六歲弱冠，變成大人，現在十六歲男生還要媽媽叫起床才不會遲到，不但不能謀生養家，每天還要跟家裡拿零用錢。

男孩需要磨練才能成為男人，我很贊成作者說的讓孩子去勞動服務，從流汗中學到做為一個男人是什麼意思，當你自己可以種出米來吃，蓋出房子來住時，你就知道你可以獨當一面了。所以電視廣告說喝了某個牌子的啤酒才是真正的男人，勞動服務過的孩子知道不對，真正的男人跟喝什麼牌子的啤酒無關，跟你有無能力去服務別人有關係。

本書最好的地方是作者在指出所有造成孩子沒有動機的因素後，最後給父母指出一條生路，建議父母可以怎麼做去改變孩子，讓孩子重拾動機。他在書中所提的方法都很簡單，只要有心，便可以做到的：如盡量帶孩子去跟大自然接觸，在他背青蛙的解剖圖之前，先知道什麼是青蛙，並且摸過青蛙，玩過蝌蚪。作者說內布拉斯加的學校不再用紙筆測驗來評估小學生對電流的知識，而是要他們自己組裝一個電迴路，如果組裝正確，那麼迴路板上的馬達就會動，鈴聲就會響。孩子從鈴聲中，不但得到他的自信心，還確實把電流的知識學進去了。作者的話使我想起李家同教授對台灣電機系學生的批評，或許新任教育部長真的應該好好看一下這本書。

另外，作者建議父母一定要用心替孩子找一個適合他的學校，學校跟孩子的契合實在太重要了，孩子一天有八個小時在學校生活，如果老師的教學、校長的理念不適合他，而他必須每天去受八個小時的罪，實在太可憐了。很多時候，適合哥哥的學校，對弟弟可能不合。我很贊成德國人的話：「沒有什麼天氣叫不好，只有合不合適的衣服。」

作者特別強調不讓孩子走上歧路，必須替他指出另一條可行的路，行為才會改善。這點真是台灣父母最常犯的錯誤，我們常懶得說理，都用權威的命令方式說話：「我告訴你不行就是不行」，使得孩子陽奉陰違、親子關係疏離。其實教養孩子是個藝術，材料不同，雕刻的方法就不同，逆著樹紋雕刻會糟蹋了好木頭。教養孩子絕對不是科學，科學有重複性，甲做成功，乙用同樣方式也會成功，但是教養孩子不是，別人孩子打罵會成材，你家孩子打罵會離家出走，不可東施效顰，以免誤了孩子的一生。

教育是要為學生出社會做準備，父母千萬要有開闊的胸襟，要多看書，了解社會變遷，了解世界新潮流對孩子的要求，然後依照孩子天性，指引他一條他會快樂成長的人生道路。



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