校中有男家長太熱情。。。。。

prettygirls

原帖由 awah112 於 11-11-14 20:18 發表
...不過只眼望望,唔會掂人個囡.

就係！唔好動手呀！

rchchan0505

比我都頂吾順！
囡囡3歲應該明，但講就可能比較難，教佢大叫“吾好”，就走開，簡單易做。

motherotk

seems inappropriate, at least the parent does not feel comfortable about that. I suggest you voice out your concern to him directly and clearly: I think this is inappropriate for whatever reasons and I do feel uncomfortable about that. Please stop this from now"

[ 本帖最後由 motherotk 於 11-11-16 08:06 編輯 ]

bbJP

原帖由 motherotk 於 11-11-16 08:05 發表
seems inappropriate, at least the parent does not feel comfortable about that. I suggest you voice out your concern to him directly and clearly: I think this is inappropriate for whatever reasons and  ...

同意!直接同佢講:'唔好意思,請你唔好捉住佢隻手,有咩誤會就唔好啦!" 亦要再向校方反映,起碼其他老師都知,亦可請老師跟個家長表明有家長投訴,校方亦覺得不宜有身体接觸,免生誤會.

要小心的是:以後學校會有好多活動,eg,旅行,參觀,攤位遊戲....到時會召慕家長義工,到時佢就大條道理拖d小妹妹既手. 校方事先知道,可以避免.

prettygirls

Thanks! 各位家長比意見我。

近日，我送囡囡回校後，我都留至那位男家長離開學校時，我才離開校門。我更避免他有機會接觸我女兒。如他一有行動，我打算會直接對他說”吾好拉手，免生誤會！“ 再吾明，我就出信比學校。

月底學校旅行呀！我都怕他又有機會比佢。

motherotk

I used to handle sexual harrassment incident in my workplace, the best possible way to stop is to be
1) firm
2) direct
3) straight forward
4) to stop immediately

No negotiation and no discussion. The point is you feel uncomfortable about his behavior, this reason can stop him anyway..

This person has no self-awareness. There are tons of reasons for him not to stop. do not give him any excuse.

原帖由 prettygirls 於 11-11-16 17:26 發表
Thanks! 各位家長比意見我。

近日，我送囡囡回校後，我都留至那位男家長離開學校時，我才離開校門。我更避免他有機會接觸我女兒。如他一有行動，我打算會直接對他說”吾好拉手，免生誤會！“ 再吾明，我就出信比學校。
...

annie40

Pretty Gril,

女人对’Ｘ騷擾’的直觉是与身俱来的, 如果您觉得唔多妥, 本能已经肯定那男家长是九成半有非份之想矣.  记否少年十五二十时, 那个小女孩未曾被陌生人或相悉的Uncle 肢体或语言上轻薄过吖, 当年年纪少, 惊惊青青, 等个色狼走左, 总犹豫不决要否要大叫. 这样就纵容D色狼专向少艾埋手了.

今天英国的小学一般回谢绝任何家长在学校范围内拍照, 怕不良分子盗用幼孩的相片作不道德的用途. 大家可以想象得到问题有多严重.因此万勿掉以轻心.

今天年记大左, 无见甘多色狼, 不是色狼少左, 而是今日的我够’恶死’, (老左也是原因之一),  除非想’找死’, 否则后果自负!

有时妈妈实在太温柔, 不如叫爸爸到学校比D好’威慑’的眼神给那个男家长, 让他知道’唔好当人傻瓜’ , ‘心中有鬼’的人一般会知知难而退的. 为了保护其它孩子, 记得把心中疑虑告诉学校.

无证无剧下也难入罪, 但坦白的让孩子知道社会的黑暗面是父母的责任. 孩子更要及早学懂say ‘NO’和'恶死D', 令爱只得三岁, 很难保护自己, 你可以正面的分享英国人的预防方法和原因, 让其有点警惕.


Annie,

p.s. My friend's 9 years old daughter was sexually abused by her piano teacher when her husband was dying in hospital.  To avoid the humiliation to her daughter, she didn't report it to policy.  And the male teacher are still working in the neighborhood. Unbelievable!

motherotk

Totally agree, stop it immediately and firmly!!

原帖由 annie40 於 11-11-17 14:48 發表
Pretty Gril,

女人对’Ｘ騷擾’的直觉是与身俱来的, 如果您觉得唔多妥, 本能已经肯定那男家长是九成半有非份之想矣.  记否少年十五二十时, 那个小女孩未曾被陌生人或相悉的Uncle 肢体或语言上轻薄过吖, 当年年纪少,  ...

prettygirls

各位，

今次想大家再比點意見我。首先感激各位之前的分享；近日我多加貼身女兒及送女兒回校都等那位男家長離開才走。一來想保護女兒，二來想找機會當面對他表達不滿。不過，這幾天他都遲回校，所以無機會接觸到女兒。點知，今天。。。。

男家長早送兒子回校，當然又係吾會理會兒子交左功課比老師未。就對我女兒，hello xxxx, hello xxxx, 早晨，同時又用手“了”我女兒手仔，不過，我女兒閃開手，所以，他接觸吾到女兒。不過，事情未完，他見我女兒避開他。他就走向另一位女生。當時女生正與其他同學圍坐一同玩恐龍玩具，他一走埋去就一手在女生頭頂亂pu 頭髮，女生即時站起來，他又即時取走女生的恐龍玩具，用恐龍頭指向女生叫”dinasor, dinasor“，（當其時我嚇呆，都不懂有反應）。班主任見狀就走去抱起女生及說”大個女，吾好la! 吾好用玩具指向面，吾衛生呀！“

但估吾到係。。。。。
他即時將恐龍頭指向老師面及說”點會吾衛生呀！佢無擦牙咩！“ 講完就走左出班房。

我打算明天再同老師傾吓係未需要我出信比學校會好點。因為，我覺得班主任太young 未懂得點應付。我出面可能學校會懂得點處理。

請比意見。

Yanamami

佢既行為的確超出一般社交, 除非同果個人好熟先會禁.  

原帖由 prettygirls 於 11-11-23 01:06 發表
各位，

今次想大家再比點意見我。首先感激各位之前的分享；近日我多加貼身女兒及送女兒回校都等那位男家長離開才走。一來想保護女兒，二來想找機會當面對他表達不滿。不過，這幾天他都遲回校，所以無機會接觸到女兒。點知，今天 ...

motherotk

I support you to write a letter to spell out directly about your observations:

1) Incidents + dates + your feelings as a mother + your daughter's response

2) Your request for the school to stop this incident immediately and directly

3) Your guess on the possible consequences ---> further harrassment may cause damage on other children

4) This parent need help - need therapy to stop his "impulsive urge" to touch children. He needs therapy and needs help. Otherwise he may cause further possible consequences that he may not want to see.

I am  very direct and straight forward on this. You cannot communicate with someone who is not able to stop his own "impulsive urge", which he himself cannot stop. He needs others to help him stop (external force-psychological help or criminal system help)

annie40

You cannot communicate with someone who is not able to stop his own "impulsive urge",
***
I like your writing so much.  haha!

原帖由 motherotk 於 11-11-23 08:18 發表
I support you to write a letter to spell out directly about your observations:

1) Incidents + dates + your feelings as a mother + your daughter's response

2) Your request for the school to stop this ...

prettygirls

今天我同老師再傾，佢都覺得愈來愈有問題。不過，無發生野好難對佢講。 我話因佢都應不敢再對我女兒有所行動，因我女已懂得避開他。我不可以出口 我告知她我會出信比學校及叫她向學校留意他有無申請join家長義工，希望可以防止不快事情發生。

現在，諗緊封信點寫。請各位再比點意見。Thanks!

hksunshine

tell him directly not to do it

bbJP

不如直接約見校長,亦請家長接送時安排多一個主任在你課室'維持秩序'.

cellon

有問題喎......