I'm confused...

Arkcocoon

It really is a very difficult period.  Like all parents, I think my son is wonderful.  He is sweet and charming, and learns things quickly.  But then when I get all these reject letters I can't help but feel "is there something wrong with my son", "is there something else I should have done"?  

Then again, look around us, can we really say that not getting into YW or DBS or SPCC means our son has a lesser future?  Or rather, will getting into those schools really make our son better than others?

I am very confused.

無氣同你講

或者真係一山還有一山高, 又或者係神早已有安排。

heitunglokyin

Your child is unique.  Getting into a good primary school only means that he "may" have a sophisticated education environment.  A good primary school does not guarantee a good secondary school education.  A good secondary school education does not guarantee a good tertiary education.  A good tertiary education does ot guarantee a good job.  A good job does not guarantee a good life.  For the ultimate goal of a good life, a parent's care and encouragement contribute much more importance.

I have a number of friends who graduated from top schools but a lot of them are too proud of such background.  It is so difficult for them to face failure.  Some of my friends were poor in school results.  However, they have been trained up as a confident person and they could find a happy life.

Pressure is something we have to face.  But please don't let such pressure to swallow your care and encouragement to your child.

Arkcocoon

thank you heitunglokyin.  you are absolutely right.

i am trying to think positive.

Charlotte_mom

"sweet and charming, and learns things quickly" 唔等於考學校百戰百勝, 無辦法, 全天下父母都好緊張, 好多5歲人仔都十八般武藝什至特異功能, 有時我地就顯得"平凡"了

對自己個小朋友有信心, 個天會有最好既安排, 加油!

lamone1

[quote]原帖由 heitunglokyin 於 11-11-2 10:51 發表

Thanks heitunglokyin! I also share the same feeling as 樓主. But when we always tell our child 'failure is the mother of success', now we can show to our kids how we deal with failure. I am trying to do so though with sadness.......

redkoni

如果你說人生如賽跑, 大家都期望能夠做到贏在起跑線, 也無可厚非, 問題是你怎樣設定你的終點, 到底最好是:  最快跑到終點? 最遲跑到終點? 跑到終點時有最好的成就? 跑到終點時有最大的得著? 跑到終點時感到最快樂? 等等... 這才更值得深思.  小一的家長較為年青, 難免遇到挫折而感到confused, 但將來升中, 入大學, 出來社會做事, 生老病死等, confused何嘗不是一浪接一浪, 永遠都是後浪比前浪更大, 有明確的目標和積極的態度, confused自然會減少.

Arkcocoon

oh dear ilj, i feel exactly the way you do... 可鄰天下父母

七點半

或者天意一早安排你會在派位方面有驚喜呢.....我們無辦法擔心咁多...要考的已經考了...要做的已經做了...小朋友的際遇是他們本身的命運, 我們做家長的只係扶持佢...relax...but + 等...= 忐忑不安....haha......都係果句...可憐天下父母心!!!!!!

原帖由 Arkcocoon 於 11-11-2 11:10 發表
oh dear ilj, i feel exactly the way you do... 可鄰天下父母

Arkcocoon

thank you so much seven-thirty.  

i also wanted to thank everyone on this forum.  i am new here and lately this forum has given me a lot of comfort.  it is so nice to be able to find all of you who are so willing to share.  thank you!

七點半

大家都係家長...互相扶持下....

gentlelam

100% agree.

invitation

gentlelam, 你張相的男仔勁靚仔!

WhiteBerry

Ackcocoon, 我都好有同感!

我覺得阿囡都算聰明，學嘢又快，記性又好，點解間間都係收reject letters，可能要train多D，出年6月再試

七點半

我曾經觀察過阿女...佢返屋企換了校服就立刻做功課...我回家之後佢又記得學校發生過什麼事...好多時我同佢講一些生活常識佢都記得...又多言..好似幾smart好明白事理...點知到我去觀課...先發現佢係學校變左另一個人...被動...發夢...不出聲...我問老師原來佢係學校係咁架...老師話係呀...佢唔會主動答問題或發問問題架...我再問阿女點解...佢只係問...唔識....我先發現一直高估左佢...當然我會不斷鼓勵佢主動一點...不過, 入到interview時都只有佢先知自己做過d咩...所以...我都不太寄望了!!!!

WhiteBerry

報D面試班有無用呢?

WhiteBerry

我都估阿囡唔夠主動、怕醜 (特別係陌生環境)，佢需要時間warm up， 先發揮到狀態!

原帖由 七點半 於 11-11-2 15:57 發表
我曾經觀察過阿女...佢返屋企換了校服就立刻做功課...我回家之後佢又記得學校發生過什麼事...好多時我同佢講一些生活常識佢都記得...又多言..好似幾smart好明白事理...點知到我去觀課...先發現佢係學校變左另一個人. ...