英華生打機被責跳樓死

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早上考試 母不滿夜半仍「作戰」

　荃灣發生中三學生跳樓自殺事件。一名在老牌名校英華書院就讀的14歲男童，疑因考試期間仍在凌晨打機，招來母親責罵，結果男童賭氣之下竟連夜出走，並在住所附近停車場的五樓一躍而下，至清晨被發現時已返魂無術，糊裏糊塗結束短暫的生命。警方經過調查，初步相信事件並無可疑，男童的家人則為這突如其來的噩耗傷心欲絕，一向疼愛男童的外祖母，更不斷哭叫

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聞者心酸

ada.y

現在某d小朋友係唔係生活得實在太好? 生在福中不知福, 稍為遇到不如自己心意嘅事, 就即刻受不了, 唔成熟、唔理智到咩都敢做, 唔理後果

2bzmummy

是因為自小家裏太溫暖嗎 ? 一點點的責罵都承受不了 ! 唉, 現在的年青人 ......      

WYmom

Just watch the movie "小孩不笨2", talking about a 15 year old boy and his younger brother, their parents are typical Chinese, always busy, no time to listen to kids, only ask them to study hard, stop them doing what they like (ICQ, talking on phone), scold them no matter what they do...  his school also is typical traditional school, use punishment method, follow rules strictly, punish the kids publicly to make hime feel shameful...the boy finally joins those gangs to steal, rob ...

Have seen so many such stories... and so many kids just "jump" to end this... is it really so difficult to understand and communicate with our teenage kids????

Is it really "沒有教不會的孩子, 只有不會教的父母?"  Why parents scold instead of praise the kids more and more when they grow up?  I really feel that the relationship with teenage kids is becoming more and more "tense", the kids become more and more "silent" when they grow up, so this leads to so many tragedies ultimately! :cry:

2bzmummy

羅馬不是一天建成的, 平時多點溝通與關懷是必需的, 但也不要過份保護與溺愛

Corijay

The student very bad     

木土土

我估好難有父母忍到唔罵!

直到昨天凌晨3時左右，萬棋的42歲黃姓母親夜半醒來，見兒子竟不理早上要考試，還在埋頭打機，馬上予以斥責。

Is it really "沒有教不會的孩子, 只有不會教的父母?"  Why parents scold instead of praise the kids more and more when they grow up?   

2bzmummy

可能平時都有容忍這些行為, 看, 他平常都有出夜街的習慣, 突然間的責罵便變了不能接受的行為

木土土 寫道:
我估好難有父母忍到唔罵!

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直到昨天凌晨3時左右，萬棋的42歲黃姓母親夜半醒來，見兒子竟不理早上要考試，還在埋頭打機，馬上予以斥責。

Is it really "沒有教不會的孩子, 只有不會教的父母?"  Why parents scold instead of praise the kids more and more when they grow up?   

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chingyu

2bzmummy 寫道:
羅馬不是一天建成的, 平時多點溝通與關懷是必需的, 但也不要過份保護與溺愛

好句好句, 十分同意!!!!  

Wendypykwok

究竟 e+應該點教D小朋友呢，鬧得多又話hurt 到佢D自尊心，唔鬧又覺很好似縱容佢地，如今做父母就真係難 !

    

WYmom

Wendypykwok 寫道:
究竟 e+應該點教D小朋友呢，鬧得多又話hurt 到佢D自尊心，唔鬧又覺很好似縱容佢地，如今做父母就真係難 !

    

Yes, it's so difficult!  Now I try to build better "friendship" with my teenage girl, so that she won't avoid telling me her school life and her friends.  If we are not showing that we are "teaching" them but instead we are supporting them all the time, I believe the kids will trust their parents more and ask for help to overcome their problems. Hope this works!

Wendypykwok

好多時仔仔話我地D大人唔明白佢地細路仔D想法,其實我好多時都真係幾唔明白，點解溫習總要人叫，叫佢唔好時時打機，佢又覺得你呢樣唔俾個樣唔俾，又唔開心，真係好煩 !

WYmom 寫道:
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Wendypykwok 寫道:
究竟 e+應該點教D小朋友呢，鬧得多又話hurt 到佢D自尊心，唔鬧又覺很好似縱容佢地，如今做父母就真係難 !

    

Yes, it's so difficult!  Now I try to build better "friendship" with my teenage girl, so that she won't avoid telling me her school life and her friends.  If we are not showing that we are "teaching" them but instead we are supporting them all the time, I believe the kids will trust their parents more and ask for help to overcome their problems. Hope this works![/quote]

GoGoKO

孩子受不慣責罵亦沒好處,他朝在社會受責罵更難接受,老闆與你非親非故,小時訓練當磨練.唉! :-|

木土土 寫道:
我估好難有父母忍到唔罵!

[quote]
直到昨天凌晨3時左右，萬棋的42歲黃姓母親夜半醒來，見兒子竟不理早上要考試，還在埋頭打機，馬上予以斥責。

Is it really "沒有教不會的孩子, 只有不會教的父母?"  Why parents scold instead of praise the kids more and more when they grow up?   

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WYmom

Wendypykwok 寫道:
好多時仔仔話我地D大人唔明白佢地細路仔D想法,其實我好多時都真係幾唔明白，點解溫習總要人叫，叫佢唔好時時打機，佢又覺得你呢樣唔俾個樣唔俾，又唔開心，真係好煩

Yes, I feel the same too!  I think the kids just don't understand why they have to study all the time!  They feel happier to play games, so they will of course do what they really like!  So if we want them to study, they must have the interest to do so first!

My daughter also does not like studying, but she likes reading a lot (not textbooks la of course), so we encourage her to borrow books of different topics to read.  Now she begins to like reading history stories.

Wendypykwok

Hi WYmom,

你都好，起碼培養到個女鐘意睇書，已經係好的開始。


  

mayc

這一代的年青人在物質上很豐富,但在心靈上卻非常貧乏,以前我們的年代家庭結構簡單,但現在的家庭巳經很不同,父母因工作遲歸,單親,父母離異,父母再婚,獨生子女等都令年青人有不一樣的童年. :cry:

其實現代的年青人真是不易明白,很多年青人不開心時會"介手"band 1學校的學生都是一樣,漸漸被老師發覺就轉"介大髀",一隻耳穿耳環穿7,8隻,穿舌環,唇環真是令我們成年人費解?

我想真的要救救現代年青人的靈魂,從靈性凡著手!

happyma

Wendypykwok

真係身同感受   唔出口又好似放棄佢, 出口又話你煩,真係好慘慘慘慘

Wendypykwok 寫道:
究竟 e+應該點教D小朋友呢，鬧得多又話hurt 到佢D自尊心，唔鬧又覺很好似縱容佢地，如今做父母就真係難 !

    

  

Maggie124

我都有這種感覺,想想自己細個個時,呀媽都唔似E+既我,所以現今社會既家長、教育制度、生活享受、工作壓力...........
做父母難,可能做囝囡重難,在這個年代做人實在難難難
所以我E+唔會祈望呀囡成績好叻,唔好太差就得啦,有時鬧下,有時同佢玩下講下笑囉